As I wrote about earlier this week, it’s been a really fascinating street to coming to phrases with a few of my limitations. Figuring out my limitations (whether or not they’re bodily, psychological, emotional, and so on.) is a crucial a part of progress I’m coming to phrases with. However the subsequent step is more difficult: how do I address these limitations? How do I handle my emotions round them in order that they don’t make me upset, aggravated or depressed? I discovered 5 issues I’m going to start out making an attempt in an effort to deal with a few of my limitations, and I hope these provide some assist to anybody seeking to do the identical!
Identify the truth that all of us have limitations.
Once I get caught in my head, I are inclined to neglect how comparable people may be. I instinctually embrace cognitive distortions that separate me from each different individual on the earth, and prop up my challenges as if nobody’s ever handled them. However that’s not true, is it? Although they may be totally different, all of us have our limitations; it’s a part of what makes us human. And though it may need to change into a part of my each day routine, saying that truth time and again is a method I can get snug with even having limitations.
Acknowledge how we maintain ourselves again.
I don’t at all times lean into the *inspirational* right here on my weblog about residing with psychological sickness, however I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that our minds play a giant position in holding us again. This isn’t to say that when you acknowledge this, all the things will change; it’s simply to keep in mind that there are added hurdles to coming to phrases with our limitations and generally, we make create these hurdles ourselves.
Do not forget that we’re on our personal distinctive timelines.
It’s onerous to confess, however I get mad at myself for my limitations. However what I conveniently neglect to recollect in these moments is that every one of my targets, all the things I wish to do and be, is only for me. I’m by myself timeline, and I’ll get to the place I’m going by myself time and in my very own approach. You may be studying this as don’t examine your self to others however let’s be trustworthy, it’s human nature to check. What I’m saying is that there’s no comparability to your journey as a result of there isn’t any one such as you. And there may be energy in that.
Set your individual requirements and targets.
I’m horrible at setting life like targets, and I’m hoping that by acknowledging this I can begin to get to work on altering my angle towards goal-setting. I discover myself getting annoyed for not assembly a imprecise objective that isn’t rooted in my expertise or character, and that’s as a result of I’m not setting my very own requirements. Whether or not I rise to my challenges or fail, I want to ensure they’re MY challenges and nobody else’s.
Being okay with the truth that you’re not at all times prepared.
Time for the ugly reality, pals: generally we’re not prepared. Generally we all know our limits, and we attempt to push ourselves previous that and fall flat on our face. I’ve been engaged on bettering my communication abilities in remedy for nearly a 12 months, and I’m nowhere near the place I wish to be – however I’ve made a lot progress from the place I used to be. Not each hen is able to fly the primary time they fight; not each child can stroll after they attempt to take their first steps. And that’s okay. As a result of we are able to proceed to try to proceed to develop, and in that approach, we’re limitless within the methods we are able to develop.
These are just some of the issues I discovered in my analysis, however I wish to hear from you! Are there methods you’ve been ready to deal with your limitations, or handle your emotions if you really feel restricted? Let me know within the remark part!